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As the summer sun begins to make for beautiful days of camping, swimming, and picnics, it’s always nice to come home to an inviting cool home to relax in after a day in the heat. Unfortunately, not everyone owns or can afford central air conditioning for their home, apartment, or office. Not to worry, there are still many air conditioning options to choose from that are cost effective and energy efficient. Air Conditioner Home offers all kinds of portable air conditioners, portable swamp coolers, and window air conditioners to make the summer heat bearable. But how do you decide what type of cooler will be best for you? Consider the following air cooler descriptions when determining which type will best suit your needs.

Window air conditioners are very common and affordable way to cool a room. Window air conditioners have a cooling power from 6000 to 8500 BTU/hr (British Thermal Units per hour) which is great for cooling a single room or studio. Window air conditioners are ideal for vertically opening windows as they can be easily installed by two people, and do not require any additional ventilation. Normally window air conditioners can be installed and running in 15 minutes. Window air conditioners are convenient in that they save valuable floor space, require very little maintenance, and can be programmed to turn on and off whenever you specify. Conversely, they do restrict you from using the window while it is in place which may be inconvenient to some.

Portable air conditioners work very much like window air conditioners except that they do not require permanent installation and can be easily moved to different rooms or taken to your office or workshop. Portable air conditioners are usually 30 to 35 inches tall and 15 to 20 inches wide. Many portable air conditioners can be used simply as oscillating fans or dehumidifiers. Portable air conditioners range from 8000 up to 16,000 BTU/hr. cooling power. Many portable air conditioners have built in condensation tanks which need to be emptied, but will automatically turn the unit off when it is full to keep water from spilling onto the floor. Many other portable air conditioners have a self-evaporation feature which automatically ventilates excess moisture out of the room and pay off greatly in convenience. Portable air conditioners do require a window ventilation hose to function correctly which are always included with the unit when you purchase a portable air conditioner. Portable air conditioners are also beneficial in removing odors because they remove the air already in the room while cooling the room.

Swamp coolers (also known as evaporative coolers) differ from air conditioners because they do not use any type of refrigeration to cool the air. Instead, swamp coolers use the natural cooling process of evaporating water to cool the air that it blows into the room. A fan pulls hot air through water-wetted pads which cool the air through evaporation then blows the cool air into the room. Generally speaking, swamp coolers are less expensive than air conditioners and use much less electricity to cool a room. Moreover, swamp coolers are very easy to maintain and parts are usually very inexpensive to replace. Unfortunately, swamp coolers are only effective in hot, dry climates and can make a room feel muggy if the weather is high in humidity.

Each cooler has advantages in different situations depending on your needs. If you live in a relatively dry climate or if you are looking for an inexpensive way to cool your house, apartment, or office, a swamp cooler is probably your best bet. If you need more cooling power and want to preserve floor space, it might be best to purchase a window air conditioner. If you are looking for a great portable and efficient cooler, you should definitely take a look at portable air conditioners. Regardless of what you choose, you will be happy you have a nice cool room to go to after a long day in the hot summer sun.

Shawn Hart is a marketer for Air Conditioner Home. For more information about air conditioners and swamp coolers, visit http://www.Air-Conditioner-Home.com

We have a wonderful gentle natured dog that I adopted about 8 years ago. Unfortunately she was a bit neglected and was very timid when I brought her home. She had previously belonged to someone who lived nearby and I had spent the last few months making sure she had food and fresh water so we were already well acquainted.

Meisha is her name and I would say she is a cross between a collie and a husky. She is a beautiful mix of grays and white with a little black mixed in. Up until a couple summers ago I had always taken her in to be groomed and trimmed, but I had forgotten to make an appointment for her one time and the next thing I knew her groomer was booked up for the next couple of months.

Well my sister-in-law and I decided instead of looking for another groomer we would just take care of it ourselves. No big deal. We had decided it was just so darn hot and she always sheds so bad that we would really give her a trim and make her more comfortable.

I didn’t have any dog grooming clippers but my neighbors did and they volunteered them for the task. My first clue that this might not be a good idea was that although my neighbors had clippers they still took their dog to the groomers for a trim. Why did I not think to ask why they did that when they had a perfectly great pair of trimmers at home.

We got out the clippers and were really going to town, poor Meisha was not impressed but she really wasn’t too tough to handle. We were feeling pretty proud of our beginning results but as we got going we realized this was not going to be a quick chore. To get everything done and looking great it was going to take some time, and we were wondering just how long Meisha was going to good naturedly cooperate with all this when disaster struck.

How it happened I don’t know, and I’m not sure how we did not notice but the guard came off the clippers and before you know it my poor dog and a reverse Mohawk that was extremely short. We didn’t get her skin or anything but we had definitely trimmed her much much shorter that we desired.

Of course at this time the neighbor came out, the kids came by to see what was going on, and my brother stopped by. Everyone just looked at this poor dog that was only halfway trimmed anyway but she also had this extremely short strip right down the middle of her back.

To top it all off Meisha decided she had had enough and took off to the back of the yard to lay in the shade of the peach tree.

My daughter was mortified with what we had done and my brother and neighbor could not quit laughing. Now my sister-in-law and I did not think it was so funny. After all we had a half groomed dog that was now thoroughly tired of our well meaning efforts and to top it off she almost had a bald strip down the middle of her back.

We decided it was time for an expert and started calling groomers. I finally found one that could take her the next day, I had told her there had been a mishap with the clippers and she was too short in some areas and only half way trimmed in others. I DID NOT volunteer that I had caused all these problems, but I did not blame it on anyone else either. I just kind of left it up in the air.

So the next day when I took her in they commented on what an awful job someone had done and they could not believe that someone had been foolish enough not to have the guard secured or at the least have noticed right away when it fell off. They made these comments before I could say anything and volunteer that it was me who had gotten my dog into this predicament.

One groomer made the comment I hope you will never let the person that did this near your dog with clippers again, and I just commented that I didn’t think we would ever have this problem again. I knew we wouldn’t because I was just sure I would never forget to make an appointment again and attempt this myself.

I left Meisha and went back to get her later and she looked really great, except for that darn strip across her back. They gave me instructions that I should probably put sunscreen on her back for a week or two until it grew a little longer. Of course I had brought my then 4 year old daughter with me to pick up Meisha and as children will do they often pipe in with comments we would rather left unsaid. I think her comment was that after she saw what I had done to Meisha she was no longer going to let me trim her bangs anymore.

Of course dead silence resulted, and I felt I had to make my excuses. It all ended up with laughter (at my expense) and the promise that next year I should just let them know I was Meisha’s ‘mom’, and they would fit me in no problem.

So the moral of this story if you want to trim your own dog, go for it, but don’t let the guard fall off the trimmer and not notice!! You might also want to read the instructions that come with it too, just to be sure the guard is secured on!

There are some great trimmers out there and I was contemplating getting one and attempting it again but then I happened to run across a picture of what happened a couple years ago. Instead I picked up the phone and called the groomer for an appointment to have her trimmed in a couple of months. I decided I didn’t want to take any chances of not getting in before it got really hot. I swear my dog looked at me gratefully after I hung up, and my daughter still won’t let me trim her bangs!

Robin Reckard, co-founder of Jorbins.com Lifestyle Magazine, keeps busy producing, writing, and editing for the magazine as well as raising and enjoying her six year old daughter.

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I just returned from training in Biodynamic Cranial Osteopathy with James Jealous, DO. His use of language is very precise, seeking to capture the life and divinity in the healing process through his words. His teaching has moved me to carefully consider the words I use and sparked this essay.

The need for inward time seem primary now as I synthesize the experiences of the last ten days. Integrate is perhaps a more precise word. It begins with being still, creating space and allowing time for the experiences to settle.

As I write these words, I am aware that I may not be using them precisely. Loose usage, vernacular blunts the divinity, the true meaning, the divine communication. So often, we take the life out of our words to appear objective or scientific. What’s left is flat, less nourishing, even toxic or dangerous. We’re refining our words the way we do flour! Let’s leave our words whole, unprocessed, unrefined. There can be such a thing as overspecificity, that looks so closely, so centrally, so concentrated that is misses the whole and the life. Can our words have a soft, peripheral focus that contains and represents the whole yet retains the meaning undiluted?

Our words are a representation, a symbol and often poor ones. A word can create a space for much to manifest. It can water a seed of transformation, of awakening, of healing. Isn’t that what we writers seek? Call it what you will but we want to induce a change. The words are only a catalyst. The hearts and minds of our readers must be receptive and in the right place for the change to occur.

Bethany Klug, DO specializes in holistic medicine at the Kansas City Holistic Centre.

She teaches whole foods nutrition and holistic living online. Visit University Of Masters for information about her courses. Please enter ‘DRKLUG’ in the referral box when you enroll.

She authors the monthly column ‘The Doctor Cooks’ for the Kansas City Wellness Magazine. The Doctors Cooks Weblog is now online with past articles, menus, recipes, tips and other resources. Please subscribe!

Celebrate your culture, your country, and the fine principles that your flag stands for by programming your national anthem as a ring tone.

Of course, there’s the minor inconvenience of having to curb the urge to stand up and salute every time somebody calls you. But otherwise, you have a ring tone that literally pays tribute to your culture, no matter where you happen to be. And in a global village where people move across continents the way some people would take a bus to another part of the city, it’s a nice (and incredibly easy) way of feeling a bit connected to home. Cheaper than making a long distance call. Less cumbersome than waving around a flag (try sticking that into your suit). And definitely more unique and meaningful than the standard ring tones that are packaged into a phone. Why sound like everybody else, when you can have the sounds of home?

National anthem ringtones are particularly popular for immigrants, who may have changed citizenship but still feel (understandably) a link to their old roots. They may be millions of miles away from family, friends, and everything familiar, but their phone rings and they’re transported to the old country.

Even second or third generation immigrants like downloading ringtones that can serve as a symbolic celebration of their roots. It’s part of their search for identity and expression of their tribal pride. After all, there’s an emerging trend towards embracing ethnicity, from the sudden popularity of wooden beads to ivy league universities organizing “culture clubs”. Downloading the national anthem ring tone into one’s phone is just one aspect of that movement.

And you have to admit, that kind of ring tone makes for an excellent conversation piece, especially when you’re in a crowded club trying to “connect” to somebody you find attractive, or stumbling through the first awkward minutes of a blind date. Your phone rings, and naturally, you now have an opportunity to say something about yourself. See, these things have their practical uses. (Aside, of course, from letting you know that someone is trying to reach you!)

National anthem ringtones can also be a seasonal download. If you’re more into downloading dance tunes or classical music or the theme of the latest movies, no problem. But why not try it out to celebrate your country’s independence day, where you can literally let freedom ring. It’s such a simple way of showing your patriotic side!

It doesn’t matter what country you’re from; the diversity of national anthem ringtones means that you can probably find what you need on the Internet. A small island in the Mediterranean, a tiny landlocked country in the Eastern Bloc, a little-known Asian kingdom—it’s all there. All you need is to go to the website, type in the name of your country or the title of your national anthem, and you’ll find it, ready to download and play. Now, if only visas were just as easy to get.

Ringtones.lt specializes in the different genres of ringtones including MP3 ringtones and National Anthem ringtones.

The first thing you need to do when setting up a web site is to register a domain name. A domain is the familiar ’something.com’ (the www is not part of the domain name).

Your domain name is a pointer to the actual IP address of your website. They’re used because they’re a lot easier for people to remember than a bunch of numbers would be.

Every website has an IP address, which is a number like 123.456.78.9. The domain name system (aka DNS) translates between those numbered addresses and the corresponding domain names.

Each domain on the internet is registered with a central registry handled by a group called InterNIC which is a subsidiary of ICANN - the organization that certifies all domain name registrars.

Domains names gets filtered through DNS servers, which link the address with the correct domain name. Most websites have a primary and a secondary DNS server - essentially a backup system that increases reliability.

Getting Your Website Set Up

The first step in registering your domain name is to decide what you want it to be. The domain can be almost anything you want it to be, but it will be more effective if it relates to the subject of your website.

If you’re selling shoes, for example, it helps to have a domain name that’s related to shoes - all-shoes.com for instance.

There are a few simple rules for registering domain names. The only characters you can use in your domain are letters, numbers and the hyphen. Domain names can’t be longer than 70 characters, but it’s best to keep them as short as possible.

They can be either upper or lower case - the case of the domain name is ignored by DNS. It sometimes helps to use a combination to make them easier to read. For example, which is easier to read mywebsite.com or MyWebSite.com? Both are the same as far as DNS servers are concerned.

There are a number of extensions available to use with your domain. The most common by far is .com. It has become synonymous with the internet (eg. ‘The dot com crash’).

Other common extensions include .net and .org. Some of the newer ones are .info, .biz and .name - these aren’t as common however, and they won’t be as effective as .com, .net or .org, which people are more familiar with.

There are also specialized extensions such as .museum, .aero and .coop which are only available for members of certain organizations.

What About Country-Specific Domains?

You can also register domains with specific country extensions such as .us (United States) or .de (Germany). The rules for registering country-specific domains vary from country to country, so you need to check with the registrars for a given country to see if you are able to register them.

All domain registrars must be certified by ICANN (the Internet Corporation for Assigned Names and Numbers). There are many registrars with varying prices. You can get a full list of all certified registrars at the InterNIC website (www.internic.net/regist.html).

Even though registrars are regulated, they’re allowed to offer their registration service through third parties, so most web hosts offer domain registration even if they aren’t registrars themselves.

Domains are registered for at least one year and you can buy as many as ten years when registering. A longer registration contract usually nets you a lower price, so if you know you’ll be using that domain for some time to come it can pay to pay for a longer period.

John Lenaghan writes about how to choose the best cheap web hosting, business hosting and other website hosting topics on the Hosting Report website. Find out more at http://www.hostingreport.org.

Perhaps the most powerful and influential message I have read is a document telepathically channelled by George Green entitled ‘The Handbook For The New Paradigm’ which can be down loaded for Free at:
http://www.NoMoreHoaxes.com/shop/download/handbook.pdf

Volumes 2 & 3 are also available at: http://www.NoMoreHoaxes.com

It is a timely message which I feel in my Heart should be read by every human being on this planet. The reason?

Well let’s just say that the fate of the planet and humanity lies in the balance.

It is not an easy read and for many perhaps most it will challenge your perspective of the wprld in every way possible. It will raise the spectre of skepticism for many and many will turn away from it while reading it.

Yet there will be the few who find that this is exactly what they have been searching for the entire time they have been here on this planet. The message will not only help this select few to awaken it will also help you remember who and what you are and what you came to this planet for.

It is a message of empowerment that helps to dispel many of the distorted and enslaving beliefs that have humanity’s neck in the noose.

I support all of those who take up with courage the challenge to remember the truth and begin to live it here.

Nick Arrizza M.D. is a trained psychiatrist and spiritual healer. He is the developer of the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP)

Web Sites: http://www.telecoaching4u.com
Young Living Web Site: http://www.youngliving.org/arrizza

“Good, good, good, good vibrations . . . I’m picking up good vibrations.” – Beach Boys

It’s All About the Vibe. When the Beach Boys’ song, Good Vibrations, topped the pop charts in 1966, the concept of Energy and vibrations was still fairly new to most people. Forty years later, more and more people are coming to understand that it’s all about the vibe. And more and more people are coming to understand the Law of Attraction and how our vibrations determine whether we’re attracting into our lives what we want or what we don’t want.

Every thought, every feeling, every person, every thing is Energy, which vibrates and radiates a signal. According to the Law of Attraction, as these signals are transmitted, signals of the same frequency are magnetically attracted back to the sender. For example, your dominant vibration, which is formed as a result of your thoughts and feelings, attracts an identical frequency from the Universe. What you experience, therefore, is always a vibrational match to your dominant vibration. To align vibrationally with your desire, the most important thing is to feel good. Feeling good = good vibrations.

Choose Thoughts that Feel Good. The trick is to pay attention to how you feel because your feelings give you feedback about what you’re attracting and creating. If a thought feels good, you’re in the process of attracting what you do want. If a thought feels bad, you’re in the process of attracting people and circumstances that you do not want.

Many people have habits of thought that do not feel good and do not serve them well – for example, worrying about not having enough money or fearing illness and decline. Once you understand what your feelings are telling you, it’s just a matter of choosing thoughts that feel good (such as joy, love, empowerment, freedom, and appreciation) over thoughts that feel bad (such as fear, despair, powerlessness, anger, and worry). As you gently and consistently choose better feeling thoughts, your life will improve on every level.

“Reach for thoughts that feel good so that what comes always feels good.” – Abraham-Hicks

Take-Home Message. When you focus on feeling good and visualizing your life the way you want it to be, you raise your vibration so that it aligns with your desires and attracts what you want. Here’s the take-home message regarding vibrations:

To attract what you DO want and avoid attracting what you DO NOT want –
Choose Good Vibrations – Choose Thoughts that Feel Good!

Kate Corbin is a Law of Attraction Life Coach and the founder of Gold Star Coaching. Both her coaching practice and her e-book, Dining at the Cosmic Café: How to Be and Do and Have Whatever You Desire, http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/ebook.html are designed to help people move from where they are to where they want to be and truly live the life of their dreams. To contact Coach Kate, learn more about the Law of Attraction, and to check out her e-book, visit http://www.goldstarcoaching.com/

When it comes to our home, we all want it to be comfortable and inviting to those who take the time to visit us, as well as one we can be proud to show off. If your home seems a little dreary or feels a little outdated, you can make some changes that will brighten it up and leave you with a feeling that you’ve just given your home a much needed facelift. The following are some fast and frugal ways to redecorate your home.

Painting Tips

One of the main ways people tend to redecorate their homes is by painting. This is an inexpensive method to creating a whole new look. When painting your rooms, it is important to remember that you should match the shade to the colors in your furniture, unless you plan on new furnishings, as well. If painting your room is not something you want to do, consider adding a wall boarder or choosing a wallpaper to brighten up your room. These are all inexpensive ways you can change the dicor of your home.

New Curtains

Another fast and frugal way to redecorate any room is with new curtains. Whether you are aiming for the sleek look or the country look, you’ll find a variety of styles and colors to choose from. Cafi curtains are a great way to let some light into your kitchen and for a new look in your living room, try something bright and cheerful. If you have the skills to sew, try new looks for the cost of fabric. If you’re crafty, you can even try your hand at a new cover for your sofa to match your curtains. For those that do not have sewing skills, you’ll be able to find one-size-fits-all sofa covers in almost any department or home decorating store.

Candles and Candle Holders

One of the most enjoyable ways for you to change or add to your dicor is with the use of candles and candle holders. Candles can be purchased in a variety of scents and colors that will add to the aroma, as well as the style of your home. Place them on tables and windowsills, as well as on the mantel and hearth. The candle holders you purchase should go with the decor of your home and may include many different styles, the most popular of which is metal candle holders. From candle holders made of stone such as an amethyst cluster to a work of art made from metal, they are an inexpensive and subtle way to change the atmosphere in your home.

To change or improve your home dicor, you do not have to spend a lot of time or money. From a simple paint job to adding candles and candleholders, you can create a warm and inviting atmosphere in which to live. If you are tired of having the same old look in your home, consider making small changes to your home a little at a time. When you redecorate, it does not have to be done in one day. By slowly creating the atmosphere you desire, you’ll be able to insure that it will be done in the dicor you really desire.

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What do you consider the most important machine in your life — Car? Computer? Cell Phone? Television? Something Else? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is it to you? Why? What are all of the reasons that make it a 10 in your life?

If you believe that the car belongs at the top of your list, how much time and money do you spend taking care of it? Do you use any old fuel, consider checkups a waste of time, ignore the car wash, etc.? You probably have your own special rules for whatever machine you chose.

Next question, do you treat and care for your own body with the same amount of effort? For instance:

What quality of fuel(food)do you give it? Do you give it an adequate supply of water? Do you skip the boring routines like annual checkups because there are other things you would rather do? Do you keep doing what you have always done (too many calories with no exercise) and expect to get different results? Do you expect the doctor to order some ‘magic’ pill for you to take when you are ill — just as long as there is no change required in your regular activities? Do you avoid making any healthy new habits because the old way is so comfortable?

We cannot trade in our old body for a new one — life does not work that way. As Mickey Mantel once said: ‘If I knew I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself.’

There has been a change in attitude the last few years. It is rare to find magazine articles promoting the newest diet guaranteed to erase all the extra weight from holiday season indulgences or how to get ready for wearing that new bikini at the beach.

We now recognize that diets, especially crash diets, are no longer acceptable. Lifestyle plans are the newest buzzwords. Sometimes it sounds like just another variation on the one-size-fits-all idea. It is not that simple!

Oh sure, the same basic principles are necessary — more fruits and vegetables, whole grain products, legumes, nuts, lean protein, less sugar and fat, portion-size control, exercise, fitness and water instead of soft drinks. Unfortunately, not enough attention is given to the uniqueness of each person. We start with different bodies, jobs, family situations, personal and family history, likes and dislikes. Thank goodness, there is more than one way to get the desired results.

The biggest challenge is deciding how important we consider a healthy lifestyle and what we are willing to do to achieve it. Honesty is the first step. Whether we like or dislike what we see in the mirror, it was our own past choices that got us to this point. No one else can be blamed for force-feeding us with junk food or roping us to a chair in front of the television. And no one else can make the choices each day that lead toward better health in our future!

Start by deciding how you want to look and feel. All the things that make life rich and enjoyable — vigor, vitality, optimism, strength, lack of illness and disease — deserve top billing. It may seem trivial, but having deep, meaningful reasons is critical for your success.

You are the only person who can make lasting changes in your life. Recognize from the beginning that it will take time. After all, no one changes from being a star athlete to a flabby couch potato in one or two months — and it does not work any faster in reverse.

A sudden, drastic overhaul of everything in your life simply will not work! More can be accomplished by making small changes — one baby step at a time. Once the first changes become habits that feel comfortable you can be confident moving on to the next goals. Trust yourself and your ability to change. Soon enough, you will have concrete proof of progress.

Which makes more sense — losing 15 pounds in a month but gaining it back before the end of the year? Or, avoid feeling like some kind of a martyr, lose 4 to 6 pounds a month and keep it off for the rest of your life? Remember too, there is more than one way to exercise and find what you really, really like and enjoy doing.

Success lies in the united effort of mind, body and emotion. You may find that writing a personal journal reporting your before-and-after story is an excellent incentive to stay on track. Begin your book with photographs and the usual records of weight, measurements, health profile and physical fitness. It will feel good to add new data as you progress. Statistics are necessary, but probably more important is the diary part recording your feelings about the changing results.

What you experience along the way becomes as interesting as where you think you are going. Record the pleasure you find discovering a new flexibility when you stretch, the enjoyment in finding foods that taste as good as they are good for you, the freedom of living without those annoying aches and pains and, of course, the newfound energy that lasts throughout the day. Every so often, look backwards and savor the progress you have made going one step at a time!

We cannot turn our bodies in for shiny new models but we can feel and look younger than the calendar suggests. The important thing is to start taking care of our most precious machine — our own body. Picasso said this: ‘Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone.’

Enjoy the journey to a healthy and happy lifestyle!

Gloria Hansen is an author and educator on consumer issues. She has a B.S. degree in Foods and Nutrition from Iowa State University. Her website is http://www.selfimprovementtools.com.

As the old saying goes ‘More people fall out over politics and religion than anything else.’ And it was this prospect that brought spice to the invitation I received to go along to a discussion involving four local leaders, looking to create greater community cohesion.

We don’t have to look too far to see conflict. Put on the TV, pick up a newspaper, listen to musical lyrics, children or neighbours. Shall we go into Iran? Where’s all our water going? Who pinched the toy? Who killed who, who slept with who, and so on.

Wherever there is conflict there is separation - division. When we conflict we fail to understand. When we fail to understand we get hostile. When we get hostile we damage the cells in our body, we become ill, sometimes cancerous and we lash out and cause even more damage. And if we know all of this, then why on earth after thousands of years of evolution are we still getting upset over piddly little things, like I’m right, so you must be wrong?

Who cares what’s right and wrong? I’m me, you are you, we’re both human. Let’s see where we can agree and discover the opportunity for us both on the issue we can’t see eye-to-eye on.

All of which sounds fine, but what happens when someone won’t agree with you?

This is where I found myself this week: someone playing hardball, using underhanded methods and seeking to score points in the most damaging ways.

So what do you do?

Acknowledge them. Accept that if you’d had their life, their disappointments, they’re hardship, you’d have their attitude and their belief system and being doing the same. Also take note that this person is going through stress and strain to help you identify who and what you are in the moment. But be aware that although you acknowledge these things, you do not have to fuel their internal conflict or become victim.

For me, the result of my trouble this week, using the above method, was that the persons aggression melted. Their aggression was met with love and stillness and found nothing on which to continue to fuel it’s personal separation.

They learned what they needed without me getting upset and they now have the choice: to learn from the experience and seek peace or continue on a path of self-destruction.

And while writing this, a young girl began screaming and crying and her mother began shouting at her in frustration. I went out and offered my help (to carry shopping bags, or play with the kid for a minute). Immediately the girl stopped crying. Immediately the mother calmed herself and they went home together more calmly, ore at peace, more at one. I hope I brought them the loving expression they needed at the time they could not find it within themselves.

But what about this gathering of local leaders, I mentioned at the top?

It interested me immensely that the more orthodox religions came prepared and gripping notes and that the New Age and Holistic representatives came seemingly unprepared.

It interested me because some of us grip to beliefs that served us once before. Like these leaders, gripping their notes, some of us grip onto life. We do what we’ve always done, believe what we’ve always believed and never break the mould.

While others, as expressed by the New Agers and Holistic-spirituality, have a view that we don’t necessarily know what’s right, that old behaviour might not now best serve us and that we’re not necessarily experts on anything.

Am I saying one leader got it right and one got it wrong. Not necessarily. We are what we are, but what we can do is avoid making each other feel wrong by imposing our view upon others.

There may be times when we will need the security of something to grip to and there will be times when we crave the variety. Our role is to find the path brings us the most joy in the moment. And rarely do we find conflict on that path.

Best
Neil

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