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Blogging, it’s all the rage. The biggest problem with becoming a successful blogger is time and content management. Blogs are cool. Blogs are fun. Blogs are addictive. Blogs are time vampire and energy suckers.

Steven R. Covey’s masterful 7 Habits of Highly Effective People started a trend of listing better ways to do things. Even though cheating isn’t on his list, I’ll go ahead and borrow a page from his book (a great read by the way) and make a list!

1. Write a blog post everyday. This can become a daunting task. It doesn’t have to be. At least one thing happens everyday that makes you think about how you do things in your area of expertise.

For example, today I was going to post on my blog about how it’s important to watch what you say.

The article came to me after I realized that I was naming our revised custom blog pricing packages “Basic BM”, “Bronze BM”, “Silver BM”, “Gold BM” and “Platinum BM”. If you haven’t figured out why these package names aren’t really great for branding unless you’re selling some sort of colloidal or metallurgical solution for folks who don’t eat enough bran, then you may want to have someone edit your blog posts and help you with branding!

Every day at least one “Hmmmm” relative to your blog topic will come up. At least write yourself a note when it happens so when it comes posting time you’ll have a topic.

2. Create a “series” of posts. This is sort of a follow on to point 1 above. Hopefully your blog provides valuable information that keeps readers coming back for more, or even better subscribing to your RSS feed. If you have a “hot topic” that requires more than 1,000 words to get through, think about creating a series. For example: “Creating a WordPress Blog: Step by Step” could be your series. This could easily be a 10 part series on one topic.

3. If applicable add some personality to your blog. Ideally your blog is “information for information seekers”, but the fact of the matter is that your readers are people too and will identify with you as the author if you “humanize” your blog posts with some humor, anecdotes or day-to-day experiences.

4. Use real world applications to demonstrate to your readers the expert advice or information you’re passing on. Given that most of your blog postings are going to be 100% test try to help your readers “visualize” the benefit of heeding your advice by demonstrating a real world example or actual application that you or one of your existing clients have encountered. Try for the “Hey, man, that would solve our problem, too” reaction from your reader.

5. Incorporate graphics into your blog posts. If you have graphs, charts, image examples or any visual or audio aid that can help your reader get the most out of your post, use it. The more enjoyable you can make the user experience the more valuable they will find your blog, the more they’ll come back, and the better chance you have to convert that reader to a customer.

6. Utilize the resources at Ezinearticles or GoArticles to add additional relative content to your blog. Make sure you give attribution (don’t delete the links). You’re not the only with good ideas, so don’t hesitate to add other author’s valuable content to your blog. It’s only fair to give them the link back, it won’t really hurt your SEO rankings like a traditional website linking strategy. Ezinearticles is a great cure for writer’s block!

7. Don’t forget to throw in calls to action for your reader to contact you. Hopefully your posts are valuable and you, the author, are becoming regarded as a “goto guy (or girl) by your readers. Don’t forget to remind them that you are a resource and provide them with effective calls to action to reach you. If you’re unsure about how to make the most effective use of your blog and specific calls to action, or aren’t getting the traction you want on the search engines get in touch with me I’ll be happy to help you out. (see how I snuck that one in!)

8. Make friends with your competitors, utilize your colleagues and encourage your employees or partners to write articles for your blog. Again, give them the benefit of the link. You’ll be surprised what comes out of sharing your blogspace with those around you, and it’ll provide your readers with a better mix of writing styles. Encourage your readers and customers to propose article topics and submit questions. Great for writer’s block.

Well, there you have my 7, no make that 8, Habits of Highly Effective Blogging. Get yourself a copy of Stephen Covey’s book, don’t forget to write down tomorrow’s blog topic and blog away!

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There are many ways to talk about another person or to write articles and perhaps a commercial piece of copy in which we use the personal pronoun “You.”

Used correctly, that single word can open up a lot of doors for us. But used improperly, it can become just another item of self-promotion and backfire.

And the irony is, people usually can tell the difference right away except for the author of the article or the originator of the conversation.

The WRONG way to keep talking about “you” is to utilize it as just a leverage point around which we spin the conversation in a direction that has nothing to do with the other person.

For example, when we ask “Have I told you how much fun I had this summer in Paris?” we are obviously not talking about the other person although we are using the pronoun “you.” There is no real “you” in such self-serving statements.

Result – the other person tries to look for an excuse to get away from being used as a bouncing board. It’s always going to be a lose-lose situation.

We will get the same result when we use “you” to lecture or “advise” people as in “you should do this this and that…”

Or when it is used just to count the features of an item, product, or service that WE think are important for US: “You can rest assured that OUR models come with a brand new thermostat and a service contract and a phone call from US every week and you can further rest assured that OUR price is the lowest you’ll ever find…”

The RIGHT way to talk about “you” is to really inquire about specific things about the other person.

When we say something like “so tell me what happened to you on that day?” or “what dish should we prepare for you? Do you have any food allergies?” then we are really asking something about that person and the result is immediate. We can then see the “you” opening up and engaging us in the kind of real communication that “fake you’s” can never establish.

Always ask something SPECIFIC and stay away from empty generalities. Give CONTENT to get CONTENT.

‘How ’s that cold you had last Wednesday?’ is a much better way of communicating with ‘you’ than ‘So how’s it going?’ or even worse — ‘whazzup?’

Genuine communication creates wonders when we are really ready to listen and learn something NEW from ‘you’ (and I’ll be the first one to admit that that’s the hard part).

If we just forget about this or that “communication technique” and instead choose to ask a SPECIFIC question ABOUT the other person and then LISTEN to LEARN something NEW about ‘you,’ we’ll never go wrong. It’s always going to be a win-win situation.

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Ugur Akinci, Ph.D. is a Creative Copywriter, Editor, an experienced and award-winning Technical Communicator specializing in fundraising packages, direct sales copy, web content, press releases, movie reviews and hi-tech documentation.

He has worked as a Technical Writer for Fortune 100 companies for the last 7 years.

In addition to being an Ezine Articles Expert Author, he is also a Senior Member of the Society for Technical Communication (STC), and a Member of American Writers and Artists Institute (AWAI).

You can reach him at writer111@gmail.com for a FREE consultation on all your copywriting needs.

You are most welcomed to visit his official web site http://www.writer111.com for more information on his multidisciplinary background, writing career, and client testimonials.

While at it, you might also want to check the latest book he has edited, PRIVATE TUTOR FOR SAT MATH SUCCESS 2006:

http://www.lulu.com/content/263630

A mortgage is a practice by which the ownership of the property is passed from the mortgagor, to the mortgagee, in return for the loan of the money, the mortgagee is the lender and the mortgagor is the borrower. The mortgagee has limited rights on the property until the loan is paid off. Most probably the mortgage loan is taken for home improvements, or financing college education. The interest rate for mortgage loan varies depending on the type of the loan

Mortgage banks and Mortgage brokers are the best options for reviewing of mortgage loan applications.

For Mortgage banks, the staff of the bank will process the loan application, as most of the
banks are controlled by the government agencies, the borrower can be assured that the mortgage loan will be approved and granted by reliable sources and there will be no discontinuation in the loan. The bank will provide a range of mortgage service providers for a particular loan application, and the borrower should select the best available option from them. The borrower should deal with the service providers, compare each of the interest rates and select the best option. The loan application will be processed much faster by bank staff.

Mortgage brokers will present the best available option for a particular loan; the brokers will provide the best option for a loan application that meets the borrowers’ needs. If the loan product is selected, then the borrower should deal directly with the service provider to finish the formalities. Most of the information on loan products of mortgage service providers will be available with the mortgage brokers.

The borrower before using the services of the brokers should verify whether the mortgage broker is registered with any reliable company or service.

Mortgage loan types

There are many types of mortgage loans available in the mortgage industry, but the two
most common types of loans are Fixed Rate Mortgage (FRM) and Adjustable Rate Mortgage (ARM).

For fixed rate mortgage, the interest rates are fixed and are high, the rates will not change
during the life of the loan, the repayment time ranges from 10 to 20 years.

For adjustable rate mortgage, the interest rate fluctuates with respect to a standard
market index, it will increase or decrease with respect to the index, the borrower cannot predict the interest rate for the next interest period before hand, if the interest rate increases, the borrower has to pay the extra cost, to avoid this, some lenders offer interest lock, using this, the borrower will repay the debt on a fixed interest rate for a particular period, the lender will charge extra money for this service. The repayment time ranges from 5-10 years.

The borrowers who borrow fixed rate mortgage loans are more financially secure than who borrows adjustable rate mortgage loans. The proceeds from adjustable rate mortgage negates any risk and most of the borrowers’ uses this loan as repayment mode.

Presently the mortgage markets in Asia are growing mush fast than the developed countries. In Asia, India has the second highest interest rate of 7%.In UK, interest rate for a 15-year fixed rate mortgage loan (FRM) is 12% and for 30-year adjustable rate mortgage is 15%.For a 1-year adjustable rate mortgage loan (ARM) is 4.05%.

More information on mortgage can be obtained from the website, http://www.loannews.net , it also provides information on refinancing,home equity loans,debt consolidation loans and mortgage payment calculator.

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Why is it that many people from all racial/ethnic groups refuse to believe any ‘new’ idea or concept that is introduced to them unless it comes from Caucasians, or until it receives confirmation by Caucasians?

Many Afrikan people are dogged by a deepseated inferiority complex which does not permit the possibility that Afrikans past or present are capable of developing ideas and concepts – particularly in the realm of science and technology – that are unique and groundbreaking and unknown to Caucasians.

This point was once again brought home to me when watching a television programme ‘Horizon’ on BBC2 on Wednesday 2nd November 2005. The programme was looking at the topic of epigenetics and the exciting and groundbreaking ‘discoveries’ being made by Caucasian scientists.

Traditionally, ‘Western’ science has promoted the idea that the genetic inheritance that one receives from one’s parents is ‘sealed’ once the egg is fertilised in the womb. Therefore if there is a genetic abnormality e.g. a chromosome deletion, this will lead to the same condition irrespective of which parent this abnormality is inherited from.

The story of epigentics unfolded in the UK and Sweden. In the UK a geneticist was seeking an explanation as to why children with the same genetic abnormality (a deletion to the same chromosome) ended up with two very different diseases, Angelman Syndrome and Prada Willi syndrome. It transpired that children who inherited the chromosome deletion from their mothers ended up with Angelman Syndrome, a severe condition in which the child is severely impaired, never develops speech, but appears to be permanently smiling and happy. On the other hand children who inherited the chromosome deletion from their father developed Prada Willi syndrome in which there is no intellectual impairment, but where the child does not have the internal triggers that tell us when we are full and therefore will eat continuously unless prevented, usually leading to morbid obesity. The question was, how could the same genetic abnormality lead to two very different diseases?

At the same time scientists in Sweden were studying a remote community near to the Artic circle which presented an excellent study group due to their genetic isolation and excellent records of births, deaths etc. dating back hundreds of years. Upon investigation these scientists were astonished to find that events that affected the present population’s grandparents e.g. famine, seemed to have a direct impact upon the current population’s health prospects. These findings flew directly in the face of the contemporary genetics paradigm since one was not talking about the inheritance of traditional genetic abnormalities through the generations, but rather the realisation that experiencing adverse social and environmental conditions could have a direct impact upon the health of generations to come.

Due to its location close to the Artic Circle the people living in that area had experienced fairly frequent famines. By using the historical records to track the occurrence of these famines, the scientists were able to demonstrate that these events had a direct effect upon the life expectancy of the grandchildren of the people who actually experienced the famine. More specifically, this effect occurred when the female grandparent had been a foetus in the womb and when the male grandparent had been going through puberty at the time of the famine. It appeared clear that these were crucial periods due to the times when females develop their egg producing capacity and males their sperm producing capacity.

This work led to the idea of epigenetics which suggests that certain traits or genetic dispositions can be passed down through more than one generation and act in the manner of a light switch i.e. they can be switched on or remain off depending upon the environmental conditions. For example, they were able to demonstrate that children who were conceived via invitero fertilisation were up to four times more likely to develop certain genetic abnormalities and that this was due entirely to the fact that the egg was exposed to environmental change i.e. being removed from the womb and placed in a Petri dish or test tube for fertilisation by sperm from the prospective father.

Such findings bring a renewed focus upon the importance of environment in shaping the physical health of current and future generations. It shows us that we are literally shaping the health prospects of our grandchildren and no doubt great-grandchildren by the things we do and the environment to which we are exposed.

The transmission of psychological states or dispositions through the generations was also explored during this television programme. Psychologists had noted that the children of Jewish holocaust survivors had reported high levels of stress and anxiety and that many attributed it to the experiences of their parents in the European concentration camps. It had been generally believed by psychologists that these people were manifesting these high levels of stress due to having been repeatedly exposed to the stories of their parents’ torture and abuse.

In order to test this thesis these scientists examined women who had been pregnant and exposed to the events that took place in New York on 9/11. The psychologists found that the children whose mothers had been directly exposed to the 9/11 attack and aftermath whilst they were in the womb exhibited much lower levels of cortisol production than other children. The psychologists were aware that people with low levels of cortisol had been demonstrated to have a greater susceptibility to developing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder than people with average levels of cortisol production.

Thus it was clear that the stress exposure of the mother had had a direct effect upon the bio-chemistry of their children and made them more prone to experiencing damaging stress than children who were not similarly exposed.

The title of this essay is ‘Epigentics and Post-Traumatic Slavery Disorder
The European ‘Discovery’ of what Afrikans already knew’. It informs the reader that epigenetics is just one example of how ancient Afrikan wisdom, which has been passed down through countless generations, is now being ‘discovered’ by European scientists. Personally speaking, it was back in the 1990’s that I first heard Dr Patricia Newton speaking on the subject of ‘Post-Traumatic Slavery Disorder’. Dr Newton, who is a psychiatrist as well as being trained in Afrikan knowledge systems, was explaining how the repeated trauma experienced by Afrikans during slavery and in the many years of terrorisation and oppression that followed, had been passed down through the generations and resulted in many of the self-negating and dysfunctional individual and group behaviour patterns that we see amongst Afrikan people across the world today.

Of course at the time many acculturised Afrikans rejected such ideas as excuse making and Afrikans immersing themselves in their victimhood. Now, with European scientists validating the ideas that Dr Newton has sought to reacquaint us with these Europeanised Afrikans will no doubt take them on board, at least up to the point where it brings them into conflict with their European reference group.

The first fundamental point I am making in this essay relates to how knowledge is produced and constructed within a world dominated by Caucasians. It is one of those sad truisms that if you are seeking to convince most Afrikans of a point of significance the most effective route is to bring forth ‘mainstream’/European validation for that point.

The second fundamental point I am making relates to the damage to the individual and collective contemporary Afrikan psyche resulting from the Mangalize (sometimes misnomered Black Holocaust). Afrikans are encouraged to underplay and underestimate the effects of hundreds of years of physical and psychological terrorisation and yet everything we see around us tells that Afrikan people are spiritually, emotionally and psychologically disloclated in a way that could only arise from massive trauma.

Dr Newton will not receive media acclaim for her work in publicising the generational transmission of stress and trauma and she would no doubt highlight that she is simply bringing forth Afrikan ancestral knowledge for the benefit of her people. Knowledge is not produced in a cultural vacuum and indeed is a product of culture. Afrikans need to learn this and act to produce institutions to (re)create and disseminate Afrikan centred-knowledge.

Paul Ifayomi Grant

June 2006

Paul Ifayomi Grant is an independent writer and consultant based in the UK. He is the author of two books ‘Niggers, Negroes, Black People and Afrikans’ and Blue Skies for Afrikans ‘ and will be publishing two new books ‘Saving Our Sons – Strategies and Advice for the Parents of Afrikan Sons’ and ‘Sankofa the Wise man and his Amazing Friends’. He is available for lectures and workshops and can be contacted at ifayomi@ntlworld.com and via his website http://www.houseofknowledge.org.uk

I love the holidays! I love baking, shopping, wrapping gifts, finding and decorating the Christmas tree, and, I love writing my Christmas letter and hearing from friends and relatives from all over the United States. Don’t let writing your Christmas letter be a chore; here are some tips to make it fun.

10 Tips For Writing Your Christmas Letter

1. Write your Christmas letter with a friend, your spouse, or your sister. It’s more fun when you share memories and laugh and cry about the year that’s gone by. Drink cocoa and have some Christmas cookies while you work.

2. Use a word processor to make corrections and revisions easy. Use of a spell checker makes sure your Christmas letter will be perfect. However, if you don’t use a computer, a hand-written letter is always wonderful to receive. Be sure someone proofreads it before sending.

3. Use special holiday paper that can be purchased at an office supply store. Or use colored paper and add pictures and borders. Use a pretty font and dress the Christmas letter up with some bold type or Christmas stickers.

4. Start your Christmas letter with holiday wishes and questions about your friends’ and relatives’ well-being. Tell everyone you miss them.

5. Next, describe your year. Don’t brag! Both happy and sad events should be included. Tell a cute story or two. Keep the Christmas letter under two pages.

6. Then, send more wishes for wonderful holidays and a happy new year.

7. Sign your Christmas letter by hand.

8. Use a decorated or colored envelope and add a Christmas stamp and Christmas seals.

9. Include family pictures in your Christmas letter.

10. Mail your Christmas letter early.

So, grab a friend, heat up some cocoa, and start writing your Christmas letter today!

To create your own free personalized santa letters, visit free printable letters from Santa.

This article was submitted by Jen Carter, creator of the Letters from Santa Claus website.

I am a self-help junkie, admittedly, and there was a tip I read from Brian Tracy in a course that I’m taking online. He asked me to catalog my fears – and then to imagine that I didn’t have this fear. The moment you are feeling anxious or nervous about something, he said, you can simply stop and ask yourself how you would feel and behave if you were *not* afraid and if you *did* know how to do something.

If you listen, you hear an answer and then you can proceed accordingly. The idea is to simply behave as if you know what you should do. It’s really the old “Fake it ‘til you make it” advice.

And that’s a remarkable way to overcome nervousness and fear, but it becomes even more remarkable when you begin to apply this idea to traits…actual characteristics that you wish you had, as well.

My biggest obstacle to success is my tendency to feel shy. We were having a dinner party last week with some colleagues of my husband. Two wonderful, professional, polished people, both of whom are highly educated in fields I know nothing about.

And so, as I saw them walking boldly up the path to my front door, I thought to myself, “How would I act if I were not shy? How would I act if I were feeling comfortable and if making them feel comfortable and welcome were my only goal?” I thought about it for just a second or two – and I really began to see how I would act if this were so. How I would act if I were to make this trait a reality. And then it all became so natural. I was both fearless and loving that evening. Conversation flowed naturally, and I felt as though – at the end of the night – I had behaved in exactly the sort of way that I would say was my highest potential.

Since that evening, I noticed that it works in other situations, as well. When I feel like I’m about to lose my temper at one of my young children…one just spilled juice on the carpet, one’s crying because she can’t tie her shoes just right, and I’m in the midst of an allergy attack because another placed a ragweed tiara on my head…I stop myself and ask, “How would a kind, compassionate, patient mother handle this?” I watch how she would carry on. And then, without thinking about it too much, I flow forward in just that way, as well.

It’s as simple as visualizing your intention – and that intention can change from moment to moment. Whether it’s to be a bold, carefree speaker; a kind and attentive spouse; a friend who stops everything and listens.

Who will you be today?

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The nature of power is a much-misunderstood subject. One reason for misunderstanding is that there are two kinds of power-political and spiritual. Religious mythology takes pains to draw the distinction between the two. Prior to the birth of Buddha, for instance the soothsayers informed his father that Buddha would grow up to become the most powerful king in the land or else a poor man who would be the greatest spiritual leader the world had ever known. Either or, but not both. And Christ was offered by Satan “all the kingdoms of the world and the glory of them.” But he rejected this alternative in favor of dying, seemingly important, upon the cross.

The experience of spiritual power is basically a joyful one. There is a joy that comes with mastery. Indeed, there is no greater satisfaction than that of being an expert, of really knowing what we are doing. Those who have grown the most spiritually are those who are the experts in living. It is the joy of communion with God. For when we truly know what we are doing, we are participating in the omniscience of God. With total awareness of the nature of a situation, of our motives for acting upon it, and of the results and ramifications of our action, we have attained that level of awareness that we normally expect only of God. Our conscious self has succeeded in coming into alignment with mind of God. We know with God.

Yet those who have attained this stage of spiritual growth, this stage of great awareness, are invariably possessed by joyful humility.

Anu Singh

No matter where you live driving is becoming a regular part of our daily working lives. Even in China, in major cities like Shanghai, I understand traffic congestion and commuting are fast becoming daily facts of life.

There are three different ways of driving with three distinct effects on your health. At the end of the day you are free to choose the type of driving you are doing and free to suffer or enjoy the distinct health effects associated with them.

1) SHORT CUT TO THE GRAVE – In this type of aggressive and angry driving, people get upset at anything and everything.

They are upset that the “jerk” behind them is trying to pass them (she might have a patient in the back seat and just trying to make it to the emergency in time) and they are committed to never let her do that.

Or they are upset that the white haired frail guy in front of them is driving too slow. They try harassing him with honking and worse. The effect is immediate – blood pressure rises, breathing becomes labored and brain cells start to sizzle. Since high blood pressure is the number one “silent killer” all around the world, I call this driving method the “short cut to the grave.”

2) CHATTERING-MONKEYS DRIVING – This is when we are not visibly upset at anybody but we are nevertheless very busy in our brain, adding things and subtracting things like a calculating machine, constantly going over and over the problems we have and all the tasks that need to be completed, etc. There are a million monkeys chattering in our brains.

This is a guaranteed way to arrive really tired at our destination. Since we are not paying full attention to traffic, there is a higher chance that we might be missing a red light or miss that truck barrelling down on us from the left lane… Try this “chattering monkeys driving” method and you’ll be tired whole day.

3) PEACEFUL LET-GO DRIVING – And you have another alternative: you can let go of anger and mental chattering and just let things BE until you arrive where you want to go.

You cannot change the conditions of the drivers around you. You cannot help if someone is late to the hospital or if someone is 85 years old and cannot react quickly to the way light changes from red to green.

But you can always control your mind, and control what you think.

Think peace and let go. Tell your mind that nothing is more precious than your inner peace and think nothing negative for 10-seconds at a time. Try this as a 10-second game and, repeated frequently enough, you’ll see that you are driving more and more in a calm and collected manner to work or home.

You have a choice. Today think about what you are doing to yourself while driving and go for inner peace, lower blood pressure and a better world for us all.

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Ugur Akinci, Ph.D. is a Creative Copywriter, Editor, an experienced and award-winning Technical Communicator specializing in fundraising packages, direct sales copy, web content, press releases, movie reviews and hi-tech documentation.

He has worked as a Technical Writer for Fortune 100 companies for the last 7 years.

In addition to being an Ezine Articles Expert Author, he is also a Senior Member of the Society for Technical Communication (STC), and a Member of American Writers and Artists Institute (AWAI).

You can reach him at writer111@gmail.com for a FREE consultation on all your copywriting needs.

You are most welcomed to visit his official web site http://www.writer111.com for more information on his multidisciplinary background, writing career, and client testimonials.

While at it, you might also want to check the latest book he has edited, PRIVATE TUTOR FOR SAT MATH SUCCESS 2006:

http://www.lulu.com/content/263630

Marriage is a partnership. Is yours an equal one? All partnerships exist because each party brings something to the other that is needed and desirable. No partnership is exactly equal because the issues are so complicated that it is impossible to figure out their relative values. But the degree of respect each partner gives to the other can be pretty close to equal with a little care and love.

There is almost always a division of labor. Some decisions will have more to do with the needs and interests of one partner than the other. Even then the decisions should not be to the disadvantage of the other. All decisions should be open to discussion and input of both partners on an equal basis so that neither partner is ever considered inferior or less important to the relationship. There should never be any bullying. This is especially true if one is the major breadwinner. That don’t make you the boss.

Some people are more clever at arguing than others. If one of you is such a person, you will need to exert extra care not to take advantage of your partner. Just because you can win does not mean you have the right to.

Sometimes decisions involve moral issues, logical matters, cultural preferences, personal likes and dislikes. These are the hard ones to be fair about. These are the ones that lead to crazy fights that no one knows the cause of. Afterwards you both feel stupid, or at least you feel the other person is stupid. When you get involved in one of these irrational fights, it is a good idea to have a prearranged signal word. (My favorite is “bananas”). When one of you comes to her senses long enough to realize it is time to say the word, do it and it will take the air out of the balloon safely instead of having it pop in your face, and you can start fresh with a better perspective.

Contracts and agreements may be symbols of mistrust, but you can make sure that you both understand that you wish to be equal partners and that your are both committed to working hard at it. If you have never taken assertiveness training, doing so, together, before you get married, is the best wedding present you could give yourselves. You will learn how to deal with each other fairly and not hurt each other while still taking care of your own selves.

Jack Wilson is an artist and teacher. He has taught assertiveness training classes in Los Angeles and Phoenix.
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Our behavior is a composite of two controversial desires, the desire to be rewarded and the desire to eliminate punishment. To acquire information on must have a stimulus and a possibility. Leaning, you get new habits and new ways. This process can be speeded up by creating circumstances that will stimulate you to reach success. Be sure to do trifles that will make you learn more. Make a situation a stimulus itself. We are learning when this knowledge is desired. To be capable to process information your brains have to be prepared. Push away all the distractions and focus on direct task. Forget about volumes of information, only the quality is important when it comes to knowledge. Pick out a piece of information, eliminate irrelevant part, process it and go over when you are finished.

When learning we seek facts that will support our life convictions. We are ready to embrace only facts that will help us prove our opinions. We deepen our understanding and determining priorities at the same time. Our task is to search and discover unknown. There are several stages one has to go through to get to the truth, so-called barriers. The first one and one of the most dangerous is laziness. You will not even attempt to do anything being lazy. After this barrier is behind, there is the next obstacle and that is fear. This one is more complicated and hard to overcome. Seeing a multitude of tasks and problems you are getting lost and locked inside your mind, staying lifeless on the outside, fear is no reason to stop being human and turn into a plant. Get involved into a process and forget about everything. The process will kill the fear and get you more self-confidence and strength to finish. There is no perfect human being and no one is secured from mistakes. A person that has never made mistakes in his life will never succeed because there is nothing to learn from. Dead load in the form of fear will never let you move forward. Do not ever be afraid to be mistaken and you will be ranted success.

Another obstacle that is the most hard to overcome is self-assurance. You can not know everything and have no space for more. It is impossible to be all knowing in the spheres you have never worked or studied. The world is multidimensional, so rich in mysteries and puzzles that one can be amazed, seeing how litter the finest scholar knows. Wisdom comes from sensing, feeling, smelling, seeing embracing and trusting. No human can actually estimate the power of knowledge because it is impossible. Plain facts leave no room for possibilities and theories give space for more research and desire to go around the globe to find the truth. It is under your feet, but maybe it is worth circling the Earth to find this out and realize what you are capable of.

Carol Miller works as a senior writer at BestTermPaper.com - Research Paper Writing Service. Carol has written a lot of articles devoted to the points of concentration in choosing a college term paper topic. She offered her own innovative views on the issue of philosophy term paper writing service and creative writing.