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It’s one thing to know how to attract a woman. Any guy can get dressed up, style his hair nicely, and make a woman notice him. But how do you take the next step–SEDUCING a woman? What are the best ways for making her KEEP her eyes on you, for making her think of you night and day…for developing an inner, GUT desire for you in bed?

Camille Paglia said that ‘Pursuit and seduction are the essence of sexuality. It’s part of the sizzle.? Indeed, it’s not enough to look good. Showing your interests, flirting shamelessly, using body language: these are all ingredients that make the thrill of the hunt so fun and seductive.’

So true–you have to make it a game of hunter and hunted, and YOU are the hunted. I explain this in detail below. So let’s look at what a lot of guys do incorrectly in trying to get a woman to bed, and how to correct them with the ways to seduce women:

First mistake: They talk down on themselves

Never, ever talk negatively of yourself. Girls see that as a sign of weakness, and a sign that you can’t protect and provide for her. Even if you screw up and drop your drink, do NOT act dismayed and pissed off at yourself for being such a clutz. This only drives the women as far away as possible from you. EVEN if you are a great-looking guy. Confidence and assuredness matter MUCH more than looks to women–yes, even the hot ones!

Instead, have fun with yourself. Stay cool; act as if you meant to do that. For example, if you trip while walking her somewhere, say, ‘I meant to do that,’ NOT ‘Oh, I’m such a friggin’ clutz!’ Show confidence and belief in yourself. Make her believe that your life goes on without her; you’ve got so much going on, you’re such a catch, that you can deal with rejection. Once women realize that you’re not insecure and needy, they’ll be happy to give you a chance.

Also remember to be CHOOSY. Nothing shows confidence like asking a girl questions about her OWN career. Instead of being intimidated by her questions about what you do and what you like, intimidate her with your own questions! Show her she can’t intimidate you–YOU are the selector, not her! You don’t ‘get a chance’ with her–she gets a chance, with YOU!

The thing is, women WANT to earn your respect. They WANT to be challenged, to feel like they earned a man’s respect, not got it handed to them on a plate. Challenge a woman, tease her and play hard to get, and you’ll seduce her in no time.

Another great way to seduce women is to play games and break her balls. Tease her mercilessly and put her down in front of her friends. This shows both confidence in yourself, and humor. Both of which turn women on greatly. They don’t want a guy they can run all over; they want a guy who will PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE!

This only serves to stir up chemicals in her brain, such as PEA, that make her attracted to you. Talking about seducing women!

On the other hand, don’t make the next mistake, which too many guys unfortunately do…

2. They talk TOO highly of themselves

While it’s great to show belief in yourself, it’s not a good idea to come across as an arrogant jerk. If anything, talking really highly of yourself shows insecurity and selfishness…not ideal characteristics to portray when trying to get a woman in bed.

Get to know the girl…tell her what you like about her. Then start talking sexually: Talk in innuendos, and sneak in comments about how good you are in bed. If she seems nervous or reluctant to kiss, tease her. Tell her, ‘I bet you’re a horrible kisser.’ She’ll want to prove otherwise…so let her!

Golden rule: The first step towards having sex, is TALKING ABOUT IT. This forces a girl to consider the idea…and once the idea of sex is in her head, it won’t go away anytime soon! Just don’t over-do, and make sure you give her direct eye contact and a knowing, grinning smile as you bring up the idea of a passionate, intimate night…

3. They have bad breath

You can have everything else going right: you’re making her laugh, she’s into you, you’re flirting just right. But if you’ve got bad breath, how can you expect her to want to even kiss you, let alone go home with you? Guys, make sure you have some Binaca, gum, or breath mints handy at all times.

4. They’re not dressed well

This is a simple one. If you look like you just woke out of bed, no girl’s gonna be attracted to you. Let alone seduced. You don’t have to dress like a model, but you sure as hell should watch what you wear and how you present yourself.

What colors work best? In my course I go through all the best colors for catching women’s attention and turning them on, but generally, you can’t go wrong with jeans and a white shirt, black pants and a burgundy shirt, or all black if you want to give an essence of cool and rebellious.

Just make sure you’re well-groomed! The best clothes in the world won’t make up for bad hygiene and messy hair–facial or otherwise.

5. Bad posture/Body Language

Yeah, a little thing like bad posture can go a big way towards stopping your seduction goals. It’s really important to sit up straight and have your shoulders back. You want to convey confidence and control as much as you can. Leaning over and not looking a girl in the eye will sabotage your efforts.

For more information on reading female body language and giving off the right body language gestures of your own, make sure you check out my How to Be Irresistible to Women audio course My audio lessons and workbook show you what works, what doesn’t, and how to position yourself for amazing seduction success!

6. Bad BO

Bad body odor is definitely a no-no. Guys, wear deodorant!

And don’t overdo on the cologne; it’s not a substitute for a fresh shower and anti-perspirant, and sometimes, less is more.

7. They get really, really drunk

Yeah, we’ve all had one of these nights. You drink a little too much (or a LOT too much), act like a creep, get really aggressive, stink of alcohol. All of it combines to drive the girl away. That’s not seducing her to bed; it’s inducing her to leave!

Instead, show that you don’t need alcohol to get a woman to bed. The thing is, really, only YOU can attract women. Alcohol can’t make you someone you’re not. It all begins with a commitment to developing your foundation: your inner game, your self-belief, your ability to embrace the moment.

One book I highly recommend for getting your foundation right, for developing unstoppable self-belief, is Dr. Alex Benzer’s The Tao of Dating. It’s an amazing, mesmerizing read that will help you in all areas of life. Check out the website–it’ll do wonders for your game, and you’ll find you won’t need alcohol anymore to feel sexy!

8. They try too hard

Nothing makes a woman want to get bed with you less, than you pushing her to do more. Guys who plead with women to come to bed, grab onto them without their consent, and say really obvious things like, ‘C’mon, come to my place, it’ll be fun,’ are destined to a night alone. Girls don’t want to seem easy; they want to feel like a man earned her body. Thinking a woman will go home with you when you haven’t earned it is a quick way to end your night alone.

On the flip side, if you DO

9. They don’t listen

Sometimes listening is all you need to do to get a woman excited. Give a girl your ear, and she’ll give you her heart. Don’t underestimate this understanding her and giving her a chance to be heard! Women are all about building bonds, building CONNECTIONS, so listening her to goes a long way towards making yourself more attractive.

In my How to Be Irresistible to Women multimedia course, I teach you some great ways to use listening as a seduction tool. I teach you about the importance of listening and communication to women, and how practicing these things can make you a VERY attractive man.

Unfortunately, too many guys only want to talk about themselves. That’s a bad mistake. Make sure you don’t do it yourself.

10. They don’t have any confidence

This is the biggest problem. Even when a girl is interested in them, so many guys don’t know how to proceed. They think too much about what to do, instead of just relaxing and seeing what happens.

Guys, LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Enjoy what happens–not just talking to the girl, but the whole fun of the atmosphere. Take your mind off the idea of sex, and just relax. That’s when seduction happens…when you’re not looking for it. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS, BEFORE THEY CONTROL YOU!

When women see you’re calm, cool, collected and fun–THAT’S when they’re turned on most!

For more information about building confidence, becoming a naturally sexy man, and how to make women feel a gut, emotional attraction to you, check out my How to Be Irresistible to Women course. Details below!

000Relationships’ ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women,’ delves into the secrets of attraction and seduction. Since 2000, it has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get your free six-part mini-course, go to: http://www.000relationships.com/towomen Will YOU be the next success story? Comments (0) January 20, 2008 The United Couples of India Filed under: Relationships, Wedding — Anish T. Sapra @ 4:20 am Think of an impending inter caste marriage, and the first thing that comes to mind is a sobbing mother, an angry father and one rebellious offspring. Inter caste marriages in India have long been a reason for familial, and sometimes communal, discord. Seemingly innocuous love affairs have turned into law and order nightmares. All this while, today?s young generation thinks what this religious fuss is all about? The human genome may have been cracked, but understanding an average Indian parents? DNA still seems elusive. 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The author is a relationship expert specializing in Marriage and Family and has written authoritative articles on the relationships and marriage. He is currently assisting Shaadi.com andShaaditimes.com as a Family and Relationship specialist. Comments (0) Seduction Science - The Three Laws of Attraction Every Guy Has To Know Filed under: Relationships — James B @ 2:30 am ‘Attraction is not a choice.’ -David DeAngelo Interesting quote, but what does this mean to us guys? In short, women are conditioned to be attracted to certain signals, traits, and physical characteristics. It is not that they CHOOSE to be attracted to bad boys, or athletes, or wealthy businessmen. Rather, evolution has conditioned them to be attracted to these types of men, because they execute the right actions and behaviors that send off attraction signals in women’s brains. Talk about having chemistry between people! The good news is, You don’t HAVE to be wealthy, athletic, or a bad boy to successfully attract women. You just have to ACT like them. You just have to know what behaviors, attitudes, and actions they have that WORK in impressing and seducing women. There are 10 laws of attraction every man must know, but as I only have a limited space, I’m only going to detail the first three here. For the remaining seven, check out my ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women’ course. Find the details at the bottom of this article. Now, onto the 3 laws of attraction! First Law of Attraction: Demonstrate High Social Status There are lots of great ways to do this, including peacocking, which is a popular term for dressing up in outrageous outfits and hair styles; being energetic; and using your popularity–the principle of social proof. When women see you socializing with bartenders, managers, and club/bar owners, this proves that you are popular–and desirable. Second Rule of Attraction: Make Impressions A great way to attract a woman is to make a memorable impressions. It doesn’t matter how good you look, how tall you are, how wealthy you are–all you have to do is leave a good memory of who you are. Make a woman remember you. You can do this in a number of ways, including: Asking how she is–with confidence. A simple, ‘Hey, what’s up?’ in a relaxed tone goes a long way towards making a girl remember you. This is especially effective with retail clerks and waitresses. Don’t act too interested in what she has to say–just say it in a slow, cool, DEEP tone of voice that sends their emotional chemicals buzzing! Teasing her. Show your confidence in yourself by joking about a girl’s hair or occupation. You can say, ‘Wow, you put a lot of effort into that hairstyle, huh?’ or if she says she’s a model or dancer, say, ‘Huh, just a model, eh? Well, that’s nice.’ Acting unimpressed, ironically, will make her impressed. 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Especially if they’re thinking of settling down with a guy in a relationship, they want a guy who can keep things interesting, humorous, and not too serious. Humor does just that. Some great ways to make a girl laugh include: Self-Deprecation This is where karaoke is great–you can poke fun at yourself and be a clown. It shows you’re comfortable with yourself, fun, and not too serious. Wit As long as you don’t use it against her too much, wit can be a great thing. It shows intelligence and humor. Observational Humor Observing funny things like a clumsy waiter or a guy whose face looks like his dog’s is a great way of making a girl laugh. Exaggeration Telling a great story and showcasing how ridiculous something was, is a surefire way to leave an impression. Having a lot of anecdotes ready to tell a girl is a great way of making an impression, and attracting her. Cocky comedy, This amazing technique, as popularized by David DeAngelo, is an incredible way of both demonstrating high social status, and of making her laugh. Generally, you want to break her balls and BREAK HER STATE. Take her out of her element, tease her in front of her group. Show that you don’t need her, and especially that you don’t need her for self-validation. Very powerful stuff. There are all kinds of additional ways to attract women, and truthfully, not enough can be written on the subject. But this should give you a start to your understanding of what women want. To find out more, check out my e-book on how to attract women. It’s YOUR turn to begin an exciting new lifestyle–so don’t miss it! 000Relationships’ ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women’ delves into the secrets of attraction and seduction. Since 2000, it has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get your free six-part mini-course, go to: http://www.000relationships.com/towomen Will YOU be the next success story? Comments (0) January 19, 2008 Negs, AMOGing, IOIs, ATCs- The Wonderful World of Mystery Filed under: Dating, Relationships — James B @ 7:30 pm One of the most common feelings we men often experience as we learn how to attract women is the frustrating, Why didn’t I learn this stuff sooner? It’s annoying to think that if you had only known the approach and seduction strategies that work a little bit earlier in your life, you may not have gone through years of heartache and frustration. There’s one guy I wish I knew about when I was single and struggling with women. His program is one that men flock to, that the seduction community listens to, and that women submit to. It’s the Mystery Method, and its popularity shows just why Erik von Markovic, aka ‘Mystery’, is considered ‘The World’s Greatest Pickup Artist.’ Just why Mystery’s program is so popular is no surprise. In my interview with Mechanic, you hear one student rave like so many others: that his course is like nothing they’ve ever seen before, and the success they’ve achieved through it, is like nothing they’ve ever experienced before. The Mystery Method Training Programs, showcased around the world every week in cities such as Sydney, New York, London and Toronto, see new students flock to the ‘Master’ every day. Many of them actually become experts themselves and lead the boot camps themselves. Just what does Mystery offer that makes him so popular? His Venusian Arts Handbook, which details all his findings from years in the ‘field’, gives you a plethora of advice. Not just techniques, not just fancy terms. A complete, painstakingly crafted BATTLE PLAN of just what you need to do in order to attract the opposite sex: building a life purpose, how to approach, how to integrate with groups, how to converse, how to appear not too interested, how to come off as interesting, how to get from bar-room to bedroom in just 7 hours. The terms and strategies Mystery details are not some blithering hocus-pocus: they’re actually based on evolutionary science and are even endorsed by a well-known British zoologist! Most of the tactics you’ll learn are facts about women that you never dreamed of: how ‘punishing’ a woman and later rewarding her goes a long way towards building attraction, how women react to different openers, how groups of girls actually work in your favor towards getting the girl you want, and how last-minute resistance (LMR to be fancy) can be overturned with a well-placed application of cat string theory. It all sounds like schmancy stuff…until you see that it all works! Mystery doesn’t clown around; if anything, his training programs and Handbook are brutally honest and a wake-up call to every man who resists the facts about female attraction. I admit that when I first heard about Mystery in Neil Strauss’ The Game, I didn’t particularly like him. I thought he was just a fancy illusionist turned pickup artist, who got women because he knew magic tricks. But as you read more of The Game and witness Mystery’s techniques in action, you realize: there’s so much more to his Method than that. And it’s fascinating, to boot. I mean, how many guys out there actually knew that you should always approach girls with a well-defined time bridge, or how giving girls ‘Congruence Tests’ will lead them into the palm of your hand? I didn’t. When I was single and in search of a girl, I didn’t know that every man must DHV (Demonstrate Higher Value), or ‘neg’ a girl to freeze her out. I’m still fascinated as I learn about Bait-Hook-Reel-Release Strategy, and the Four M3 Sequencing Mistakes that I made so many times as a college student. Which all leads me to revisiting my original thought: I wish I’d known all of this stuff sooner! 000Relationships’ ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women’ delves into the secrets of attraction and seduction. Since 2000, it has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get your free six-part mini-course, go to: http://www.000relationships.com/towomen Will YOU be the next success story? Comments (0) January 13, 2008 Father Of The Bride Speech Part 1 Filed under: Relationships, Wedding — Carol Howard @ 7:20 am Traditionally, the father of the bride speech is the first speech that takes place at a wedding. Why? Because traditionally, it?s the brides parents who are paying for the wedding! But nowadays, this isn?t always the case. But it?s still considered polite for the father of the bride to make the first speech at a wedding. So if you?re going to be giving a father of the bride speech, here?s how it works: First, the Master of Ceremonies (MC for short) will ask you (the father of the bride) to speak. And then it will be time to deliver your speech. So what kind of things should you say in your speech? Well first of all, you will probably want to thank all the guests for coming, all the people who have contributed, and you may like to make an extra thank you to the people who have had to travel long way to be there. Traditionally after this you will talk about your daughter and what she means to you. You?ll also share your thoughts about handing her over to her partner to be cared for. Here?s a few tips for what you could talk about in your father of the bride speech: Firstly, be honest and open when you talk about how you feel about your daughter. Take some time to plan what you?re going to talk about. You can talk about memories, and about her life. One of the best ways of doing this is to focus on a particular story from your daughters past. Take some time to find the best story you?d like to tell about her. Think of something that reveals her character, or something that makes a funny story, or something that shows how much you love your daughter. Something to remember if you choose the funny story option is to make it meaningful in some way ? not just funny. Try to add some sentimentality to it. And don?t worry about being too sentimental. This is your daughters wedding day, when else is a better time to be sentimental and get away with it? One thing you won?t want to leave out of your father if the bride speech is welcoming your new son-in-law into your family. A good way to do this is to tell a little story of when you first met your son-in-law and time you have spent with him or his family. I hope you found this article useful. Good luck with your speech! For more information on wedding speeches, visit Carol’s wedding speech blog Comments (0) Newer Posts » Categories