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February 1, 2008
Kissing girls: It’s meant to be fun. If you’re nervous about kissing women, or see it as only a gateway towards sex, you’re missing out. In fact, the more you take your time with kissing and truly enjoy it, the more chances you have of enjoying physical intimacy with a girl. So let me show you how to kiss girls–and enjoy it!
If you’ve never kissed before, the best thing you can possibly do is RELAX. It isn’t a big deal if you muck up your first kiss! Girls are very understanding, and you can actually laugh about it. I know so many couples who joke about their first kiss. The first kiss most people have is an awkward one, so girls will forgive you if it’s not perfect!
Next, learn proper kissing technique. That means knowing how to move in for the kiss, controlling your tempo, kissing for affection, and kissing for intimacy. There are lots of websites out there, but I like this site the best for kissing girls the RIGHT ways. You’ll get pictures and everything about what’s right and what’s wrong.
I’m going to cover two particular areas of kissing in this column: kissing for affection, and kissing for intimacy. First let’s talk about kissing for intimacy. Say you’re on a date and want to move things to the next level. The best way to do it is to talk about how you’d like to kiss her. As one guru, Craig, says, ‘Talking about sex is the first step towards having it.’ Likewise, talking about kissing is the first step towards actual kissing. It will relax both of you and, if said in a relaxed, confident, NOT desperate tone, can really excite a girl. Once you do get to kissing, kiss with passion: don’t half-job it! Use your arms, your body: press into her, touch her face with your hands, stroke her hair. All these things show you’re serious about intimacy and want her in the worst way.
If she pulls in, you’re doing great. Pulls back, just slow it down. Just because she doesn’t do it with the same passion as you doesn’t mean she wants it. A lot of times girls want to take things slower than guys. That’s fine: match her tempo. Kiss her on the neck, the cheeks, all over. Eventually that will warm her up. When she starts to get into it (moaning, moving closer to you, grabbing you back), you can start kissing her in her erogenous zones all over the body. Remember, kissing isn’t just on the lips! If you really want to get intimate, kiss her below the neck–on her thighs, on her hips (very sensitive area!) and even on her feet. Not to mention the obvious areas.  This should guarantee you a great night.
But kissing doesn’t end with sex! Too many guys make that mistake. Sex is only the BEGINNING of the kissing stage! As you’re performing, remember to kiss her all over her body, particularly on the neck and breasts. Show that you’re not interested just in a quick act–you want to be passionate and intimate, as well. Kissing achieves this purpose, and will make the girl eager to do it again!
For affection, kissing is the best. As I say in my e-book and audio articles, women LOVE surprises, so nothing shows you love your girlfriend (or wife) like a surprise, spontaneous kiss out of nowhere! She’ll love it, and thank you for it. She’ll also reward you for it, by staying with you and treating you great. Happy wife, happy life! The same goes with girlfriends. Don’t be surprised if she starts bringing you breakfast in bed, buying you presents, acting a lot nicer, when you give her lots of kisses out of nowhere, just to remind her that you love her. This works!
Remember, kissing is meant to be FUN. Once you see the fun and enjoyable side of kissing, you’ll surely want more and more. As an old Chinese proverb goes, ‘Kissing is like drinking tea with a tea strainer: you can never get enough.’
To learn more great kissing techniques, go to: http://www.kissing101.net
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It’s one thing to know how to attract a woman. Any guy can get dressed up, style his hair nicely, and make a woman notice him. But how do you take the next step–SEDUCING a woman? What are the best ways for making her KEEP her eyes on you, for making her think of you night and day…for developing an inner, GUT desire for you in bed?
Camille Paglia said that ‘Pursuit and seduction are the essence of sexuality. It’s part of the sizzle.? Indeed, it’s not enough to look good. Showing your interests, flirting shamelessly, using body language: these are all ingredients that make the thrill of the hunt so fun and seductive.’
So true–you have to make it a game of hunter and hunted, and YOU are the hunted. I explain this in detail below. So let’s look at what a lot of guys do incorrectly in trying to get a woman to bed, and how to correct them with the ways to seduce women:
First mistake: They talk down on themselves
Never, ever talk negatively of yourself. Girls see that as a sign of weakness, and a sign that you can’t protect and provide for her. Even if you screw up and drop your drink, do NOT act dismayed and pissed off at yourself for being such a clutz. This only drives the women as far away as possible from you. EVEN if you are a great-looking guy. Confidence and assuredness matter MUCH more than looks to women–yes, even the hot ones!
Instead, have fun with yourself. Stay cool; act as if you meant to do that. For example, if you trip while walking her somewhere, say, ‘I meant to do that,’ NOT ‘Oh, I’m such a friggin’ clutz!’ Show confidence and belief in yourself. Make her believe that your life goes on without her; you’ve got so much going on, you’re such a catch, that you can deal with rejection. Once women realize that you’re not insecure and needy, they’ll be happy to give you a chance.
Also remember to be CHOOSY. Nothing shows confidence like asking a girl questions about her OWN career. Instead of being intimidated by her questions about what you do and what you like, intimidate her with your own questions! Show her she can’t intimidate you–YOU are the selector, not her! You don’t ‘get a chance’ with her–she gets a chance, with YOU!
The thing is, women WANT to earn your respect. They WANT to be challenged, to feel like they earned a man’s respect, not got it handed to them on a plate. Challenge a woman, tease her and play hard to get, and you’ll seduce her in no time.
Another great way to seduce women is to play games and break her balls. Tease her mercilessly and put her down in front of her friends. This shows both confidence in yourself, and humor. Both of which turn women on greatly. They don’t want a guy they can run all over; they want a guy who will PUT THEM IN THEIR PLACE!
This only serves to stir up chemicals in her brain, such as PEA, that make her attracted to you. Talking about seducing women!
On the other hand, don’t make the next mistake, which too many guys unfortunately do…
2. They talk TOO highly of themselves
While it’s great to show belief in yourself, it’s not a good idea to come across as an arrogant jerk. If anything, talking really highly of yourself shows insecurity and selfishness…not ideal characteristics to portray when trying to get a woman in bed.
Get to know the girl…tell her what you like about her. Then start talking sexually: Talk in innuendos, and sneak in comments about how good you are in bed. If she seems nervous or reluctant to kiss, tease her. Tell her, ‘I bet you’re a horrible kisser.’ She’ll want to prove otherwise…so let her!
Golden rule: The first step towards having sex, is TALKING ABOUT IT. This forces a girl to consider the idea…and once the idea of sex is in her head, it won’t go away anytime soon! Just don’t over-do, and make sure you give her direct eye contact and a knowing, grinning smile as you bring up the idea of a passionate, intimate night…
3. They have bad breath
You can have everything else going right: you’re making her laugh, she’s into you, you’re flirting just right. But if you’ve got bad breath, how can you expect her to want to even kiss you, let alone go home with you? Guys, make sure you have some Binaca, gum, or breath mints handy at all times.
4. They’re not dressed well
This is a simple one. If you look like you just woke out of bed, no girl’s gonna be attracted to you. Let alone seduced. You don’t have to dress like a model, but you sure as hell should watch what you wear and how you present yourself.
What colors work best? In my course I go through all the best colors for catching women’s attention and turning them on, but generally, you can’t go wrong with jeans and a white shirt, black pants and a burgundy shirt, or all black if you want to give an essence of cool and rebellious.
Just make sure you’re well-groomed! The best clothes in the world won’t make up for bad hygiene and messy hair–facial or otherwise.
5. Bad posture/Body Language
Yeah, a little thing like bad posture can go a big way towards stopping your seduction goals. It’s really important to sit up straight and have your shoulders back. You want to convey confidence and control as much as you can. Leaning over and not looking a girl in the eye will sabotage your efforts.
For more information on reading female body language and giving off the right body language gestures of your own, make sure you check out my How to Be Irresistible to Women audio course My audio lessons and workbook show you what works, what doesn’t, and how to position yourself for amazing seduction success!
6. Bad BO
Bad body odor is definitely a no-no. Guys, wear deodorant!
And don’t overdo on the cologne; it’s not a substitute for a fresh shower and anti-perspirant, and sometimes, less is more.
7. They get really, really drunk
Yeah, we’ve all had one of these nights. You drink a little too much (or a LOT too much), act like a creep, get really aggressive, stink of alcohol. All of it combines to drive the girl away. That’s not seducing her to bed; it’s inducing her to leave!
Instead, show that you don’t need alcohol to get a woman to bed. The thing is, really, only YOU can attract women. Alcohol can’t make you someone you’re not. It all begins with a commitment to developing your foundation: your inner game, your self-belief, your ability to embrace the moment.
One book I highly recommend for getting your foundation right, for developing unstoppable self-belief, is Dr. Alex Benzer’s The Tao of Dating. It’s an amazing, mesmerizing read that will help you in all areas of life. Check out the website–it’ll do wonders for your game, and you’ll find you won’t need alcohol anymore to feel sexy!
8. They try too hard
Nothing makes a woman want to get bed with you less, than you pushing her to do more. Guys who plead with women to come to bed, grab onto them without their consent, and say really obvious things like, ‘C’mon, come to my place, it’ll be fun,’ are destined to a night alone. Girls don’t want to seem easy; they want to feel like a man earned her body. Thinking a woman will go home with you when you haven’t earned it is a quick way to end your night alone.
On the flip side, if you DO
9. They don’t listen
Sometimes listening is all you need to do to get a woman excited. Give a girl your ear, and she’ll give you her heart. Don’t underestimate this understanding her and giving her a chance to be heard! Women are all about building bonds, building CONNECTIONS, so listening her to goes a long way towards making yourself more attractive.
In my How to Be Irresistible to Women multimedia course, I teach you some great ways to use listening as a seduction tool. I teach you about the importance of listening and communication to women, and how practicing these things can make you a VERY attractive man.
Unfortunately, too many guys only want to talk about themselves. That’s a bad mistake. Make sure you don’t do it yourself.
10. They don’t have any confidence
This is the biggest problem. Even when a girl is interested in them, so many guys don’t know how to proceed. They think too much about what to do, instead of just relaxing and seeing what happens.
Guys, LIVE IN THE MOMENT. Enjoy what happens–not just talking to the girl, but the whole fun of the atmosphere. Take your mind off the idea of sex, and just relax. That’s when seduction happens…when you’re not looking for it. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS, BEFORE THEY CONTROL YOU!
When women see you’re calm, cool, collected and fun–THAT’S when they’re turned on most!
For more information about building confidence, becoming a naturally sexy man, and how to make women feel a gut, emotional attraction to you, check out my How to Be Irresistible to Women course. Details below!
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000Relationships’ ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women,’ delves into the secrets of attraction and seduction. Since 2000, it has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get your free six-part mini-course, go to:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen
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January 19, 2008
One of the most common feelings we men often experience as we learn how to attract women is the frustrating, Why didn’t I learn this stuff sooner?
It’s annoying to think that if you had only known the approach and seduction strategies that work a little bit earlier in your life, you may not have gone through years of heartache and frustration.
There’s one guy I wish I knew about when I was single and struggling with women. His program is one that men flock to, that the seduction community listens to, and that women submit to. It’s the Mystery Method, and its popularity shows just why Erik von Markovic, aka ‘Mystery’, is considered ‘The World’s Greatest Pickup Artist.’
Just why Mystery’s program is so popular is no surprise. In my interview with Mechanic, you hear one student rave like so many others: that his course is like nothing they’ve ever seen before, and the success they’ve achieved through it, is like nothing they’ve ever experienced before. The Mystery Method Training Programs, showcased around the world every week in cities such as Sydney, New York, London and Toronto, see new students flock to the ‘Master’ every day. Many of them actually become experts themselves and lead the boot camps themselves.
Just what does Mystery offer that makes him so popular? His Venusian Arts Handbook, which details all his findings from years in the ‘field’, gives you a plethora of advice. Not just techniques, not just fancy terms. A complete, painstakingly crafted BATTLE PLAN of just what you need to do in order to attract the opposite sex: building a life purpose, how to approach, how to integrate with groups, how to converse, how to appear not too interested, how to come off as interesting, how to get from bar-room to bedroom in just 7 hours. The terms and strategies Mystery details are not some blithering hocus-pocus: they’re actually based on evolutionary science and are even endorsed by a well-known British zoologist!
Most of the tactics you’ll learn are facts about women that you never dreamed of: how ‘punishing’ a woman and later rewarding her goes a long way towards building attraction, how women react to different openers, how groups of girls actually work in your favor towards getting the girl you want, and how last-minute resistance (LMR to be fancy) can be overturned with a well-placed application of cat string theory. It all sounds like schmancy stuff…until you see that it all works! Mystery doesn’t clown around; if anything, his training programs and Handbook are brutally honest and a wake-up call to every man who resists the facts about female attraction.
I admit that when I first heard about Mystery in Neil Strauss’ The Game, I didn’t particularly like him. I thought he was just a fancy illusionist turned pickup artist, who got women because he knew magic tricks. But as you read more of The Game and witness Mystery’s techniques in action, you realize: there’s so much more to his Method than that. And it’s fascinating, to boot. I mean, how many guys out there actually knew that you should always approach girls with a well-defined time bridge, or how giving girls ‘Congruence Tests’ will lead them into the palm of your hand? I didn’t. When I was single and in search of a girl, I didn’t know that every man must DHV (Demonstrate Higher Value), or ‘neg’ a girl to freeze her out. I’m still fascinated as I learn about Bait-Hook-Reel-Release Strategy, and the Four M3 Sequencing Mistakes that I made so many times as a college student.
Which all leads me to revisiting my original thought: I wish I’d known all of this stuff sooner!
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000Relationships’ ‘How to Be Irresistible to Women’ delves into the secrets of attraction and seduction. Since 2000, it has helped thousands of men around the world build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get your free six-part mini-course, go to:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen
Will YOU be the next success story?
January 12, 2008
1.Never give out personal details to the person you are chatting with. Remember that you just met, and are getting to know each other better.
Keep such important personal details such as your home phone numbers,work addresses,credit cards and bank account details from your new friend.
These are the details that scammers are always in a hurry to get from you.
It’s not unusual for a chatter,who is a scammer to insist on having your phone number right away so that he or she can call you.
Once you give out your phone numbers, then be prepared to receive lots of calls from the person.
The fellow would do all he/she can to impress you and warm up to your heart with their constant phone calls.
Also, do not give out other details that are personal to you or any of your family members.
2.Use reputable dating sites.Don’t use free ones,as scammers tend to shy away from paid ones.
Remember that most scammers come from regions where the poverty level is high, and credit cards are not readily available.
Therefore, you should sign up with paid dating sites, to ensure a greater level of security for you.
Some of the paid dating sites have been actively weeding out scammers from their site in recent time.
They have assumed more responsibility to protect those people who are paying for their services.
But all the same, you need to be careful on the paid ones too.Some categories of scammers can easily pay their way on a dating site and also use the services there.
So, it pays to be on your guard at all times.
3.Look for someone in your local area.This is still the best form of dating.Most people I know who were scammed in recent time, eventually got to date someone in their area.
Some are married already.
Don’t live under the impression that you can’t find true love in your locality.
You surely can.
You only need to look very well in order to find a person.
You may also consider a person in your state, or another region of your country.
The chances are that a date that you meet in person is less likely to be a scammer.
Even if there is a shortage of eligible men or women around you, you might just look around in a town next to yours.
So, rather than looking for a person abroad when next you are searching for a date on the internet, you could just search for a person in your area.
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Alan Prince’s insight and research on romance scams has been of great use to many anti-scams groups.He has helped a lot of people to unravel the truth about romance scams and how it operates. You can read more about you can avoid romance scams at www.elovedeceptions.com
Prior to making a commitment in a relationship, or in the ‘pre-commitment’ stage, is your opportunity to choose your future as consciously as possible.
YOU ARE A PIONEER
You are the pioneer of your life. And if you are reading this you are most likely seeking to be the pioneer of your relationships by striving to break free of past patterns and make conscious relationship choices. As a relationship pioneer your goal is to be fully aware of the long-term impact of your choices and date and mate with conscious intention. You are determined to create the life and relationship you really want and believe that true love and fulfillment will happen only if you go after what you really want and don?t settle for less.
Everyone begins their journey towards a successful and fulfilling committed life partnership as a single. When you date and finally find someone to bond with in a relationship it’s very exciting, but at the same time, most are conscious of the question ‘Is this the right relationship for me?’ and are in what I call the ‘Pre-commitment Stage’ of a relationship. The journey from single to becoming a conscious couple in a successful, fulfilling committed life partnership I call ‘Conscious Mating.’ Just as a conscious single must have clarity about who you are, what you want, and how to get it, so must a conscious couple. As challenging as it is for you to make good long term relationship choices when you?re single, it can be even more challenging to make good long-term relationship choices when in a pre-committed relationship.
WHAT IS PRE-COMMITMENT?
When singles become couples in today’s world, most are wondering at some level ‘Is this ‘The One’? Should I be with this person for the rest of my life?’ They are an exclusive couple, but not yet committed.
It may be tempting to call these couples ‘pre-marital’ as a catch-all term to include all couples that haven’t yet taken the step of becoming committed. However, in our opinion, the mindset of a pre-marital couple is ‘We want to be married,’ which is very different from the pre-commitment mindset of ‘Is this the right relationship for me?’
When I first identified the pre-commitment stage and started developing some approaches to working with these couples, I recognized this stage as different than ‘pre-marital’ but didn’t know what to call it. The label ‘pre-commitment’ was intended to be temporary, but it stuck. I was amazed at the lack of recognition, information, and resources for this stage of relationship among mainstream relationship experts and the available research and literature. Even today, while this phenomenon has become common practice in our culture it is still largely unrecognized in the mainstream, which I hope to change with articles such as this one.
TWO TYPES OF PRE-COMMITMENT
Pre-committed couples generally fall into two categories-
UNCONSCIOUS- typically following the ‘mini-marriage’ model of trying the relationship out, acting committed without actually making the commitment. A disconnect of fact and attitude.
CONSCIOUS- aware that they are not yet committed, usually have commitment as a goal, asking themselves ‘Is this the right relationship for me? Should I make a commitment?’ An alignment of fact and attitude.
ROMANTIC LOVE AND PRE-COMMITMENT
There are many misconceptions about love. Our culture glorifies the romantic love stage of relationship in literature, theatre, television, and movies. It is that initial infatuation stage of a relationship when our chemistry is in high gear and we experience euphoria. Powerful amphetamine-like neurotransmitters flood and alter our brain chemistry.
While unsustainable, the romantic love stage serves an important purpose because it gives us a taste of our best and most powerful selves. If the relationship turns out to be a good long-term choice, this stage bonds us together and prepares us to weather life?s inevitable storms. Confusing this initial romantic stage with real, sustainable love is a mistake that can be our undoing.
We want and expect to be happy, and romantic love is eternally optimistic. We don?t want to believe that when we experience this intense chemistry with someone that it won?t work. We want to avoid the pain of failure and can be tempted to try hard to fit a round peg into a square hole, twisting ourselves into a pretzel trying to ?make? a relationship work.
In today?s world when singles become couples, few jump blindly into immediate commitment. Most new couples are ?pre-committed,? meaning they are an exclusive couple, but they haven?t yet decided the future of their relationship. This stage coincides with romantic love, and conscious couples who understand relationships realize the need to get to know one another long enough for the infatuation to wear off and experience the reality before making irreversible long-term choices.
CONSCIOUS MATING ? A RADICAL POSITION
Here is the radical truth: Relationships do break up. As hard as we might try to prevent and avoid relationship failure, it happens anyway. Because there are many unconscious forces at work in every stage of a relationship, being fully aware isn?t easy and controlling the outcome is impossible.. These unconscious forces have the potential for undermining our best efforts to sustain love if we are not aware.
In Conscious Mating, rather than unconsciously believing romantic fantasies of living happily ever after, we accept this truth. Since relationships break up anyway, why not be as conscious as possible in the process and increase our odds of success?
CHOOSING YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES
Every relationship has challenges. This is normal and does not mean there is something inherently wrong with your relationship. Some challenges are solvable and can be addressed and resolved, others are perpetually unsolvable. Prior to making a commitment in a relationship, or in the ‘pre-commitment’ stage, is your opportunity to choose your future as objectively as possible.
You can use the pre-commitment stage of a relationship to identify the solvable challenges and unsolvable problems in this relationship. You can then make a conscious choice to take them on and live with them, or decide that they sabotage the long-term sustainability of your relationship and walk away while you still can with much less pain and cost than further down the road. In pre-commitment you are in an exclusive relationship that is not yet committed. This gives you an opportunity to identify whether this relationship meets your requirements and needs for a successful long-term relationship before you make a commitment. Using the pre-commitment stage to make conscious long-term choices makes good sense.
PAIN PREVENTION
Even if you experience the pain of breaking up in the pre-commitment stage, this prevents you from experiencing even greater pain down the road.
Making the most conscious choice possible before making a commitment is, in our opinion, a pain-prevention gift you can give to yourself. As difficult as it is to make the choice to end a relationship, you will save yourself the devastation you will surely experience at the end of a mini-marriage or a divorce, especially where children are involved.
If you are in a relationship that is not yet committed and are asking the question ?Is this the right relationship for me?? I encourage you to make a long-term relationship choice that will result in the life and relationship that you really want before you make a commitment. We must acknowledge the possibility that your current relationship is not ?The One.? Therefore, I suggest you seek to gain clarity about what you really want and need in a relationship and whether or not your current relationship will result in living the life you love with the love of your life.
Copyright 2006 David Steele
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David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of ‘Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World.’ http://www.consciousdating.com
For free live Conscious Relationship tele-seminars, e-programs, audio programs and much more for singles and couples visit http://www.consciousrelationshipresources.com
December 28, 2007
Youngsters and those in their adult years have gone through this rite of passage called courting Online. Courting has many benefits. A common question among friends these days is whether or not singles should try to meet their ideal partner through internet courting. This method of meeting other singles, although relatively new, is now being looked at as a favorable way to communicate with like minded singles.
As more people flock online, there are people ever more eager to jump on the courting bandwagon. Whatever your thoughts on the matter, the web has changed the way the general public searches for partners. Unless you date outside your box you will never know if maybe someone different just might be your type. Take that first step and try some online dating sites to see if there is someone compatable with you. I venture to say that you will be amazed at the results.
Courting sites offer many different options as far as what you can say you are looking for in a relationship. Using an internet dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. Allow the incredible opportunity of internet dating to work for you. After all, you do not need to meet someone in person, unless you choose to do so.
Most internet dating sites have help should you have any questions or need assistance. If you live in one of the major developed countries such as America or Canada, you will find that the majority of websites are centered around these countries as they lead the field in the area of online dating development. Report to the web site what you need and want in a relationship.
Since it’s free to sign up and post your facts and spitting image to most internet courting websites, many of the people take that step despite no intentions of going further. You can test the waters, so to speak.
Pen pal romance or online dating wouldn’t change how people at large view a person, it changes the way they fall in love. As more woman are becoming completely comfortable despite online communication and more woman have access to Internet at home and at work, online dating sites have flourished. The online world has revolutionised the way we work, shop, conduct our financial affairs, and entertain ourselves. To use it as a medium for meeting untapped common people is a logical step in our fast changing world.
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Keith Londrie II is a successful Webmaster and publisher of how-to-date-woman.info A website that specializes in providing advice on how to date women online that you can research on the internet in your pajamas from the comfort of your own home. Visit how to date women today!
December 26, 2007
Create a great autobiography at your courting website and the first email that you send to another member will be an absolute stunner. Internet meeting has become a norm, and is gaining in acceptability. Seems like everywhere we surf on the Internet nowadays we run across this little advertisement: ‘Free internet personals’. The dating web sites are abundant and flourishing. It’s no wonder, people do not have to commit to a date until they are ready. Then they can ask the best prospects for a date and even something further.
The development of the Online world and the Web has transformed our planet into a digitalized global village. Online courting is simply a free dating service that you use via the internet. If you are looking for a date, but are a bit skeptical about using an online dating service, give it a try. As I stated above, you can search for as long as you would like without committing to a date or meeting with another person.
Some dating web sites just ask for very basic buzz before attempting to match you to a potential collaborator. By using an internet courting service, you don?t have to wait until the weekend to meet someone. You can easily have more fun with a woman when all of the pressure is off. Communicating through the internet gives you some sort of identity protection, until you are more comfortable with the prospective date to go to the next level.
Using an internet dating service to find dates was once frowned upon and even considered scary. There are many internet courting sites that have very short sign-up processes and others that require you to answer lots of questions. Internet dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about online courting before one gets into the intricacies of it. Take your time and meet different people online and slowly find the match that you are looking for.
The traditional argument for not using the internet to meet someone is that it is not natural. Whether you find your date on the internet or in person, you could end up with a true loved one or a broken heart. Online courting is now a huge industry. If an online dater sends you threatening e-mails or makes you feel uncomfortable, you can simply report them to the online dating service and have their account revoked
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Keith Londrie II is a successful Webmaster and publisher of how-to-date-woman.info A website that specializes in providing advice on how to date women online that you can research on the internet in your pajamas from the comfort of your own home. Visit how to date women today!
December 23, 2007
Someone once said, ‘Any problem you can’t solve with a good guitar, is either unsolvable or isn’t a problem.’
I’d have to agree with that quotation, especially when it comes to girls. When it comes to landing chicks and improving relationships, a guitar is your best friend!
Why? Because women love men with talents–and playing a guitar, even at an amateur level, is definitely a talent. Having a skill is indeed one of the fundamental rules of attraction. The Tao of Steve, a fascinating and entertaining movie, even breaks down how to get women into three simple rules, one of which is ‘be awesome in her presence.’ It includes doing something 1, most guys can’t do, 2, that makes you unique, and 3, that makes you talented.
Well, a guitar answers all three requirements!
If you haven’t heard my lesson on the value of playing a guitar, I strongly suggest you check it out. My colleague and relationship expert, Amy Waterman, tells you from a girl’s perspective just why a guitar player–even a bad one–is so sexy and attractive.
Let’s look at some of the many benefits of knowing how to play the guitar in front of women.
1. As I said above, just being able to play a guitar, even if you’re not so good, means you have talent. Girls love talent, so you’re headed in the right direction.
2. If you play the guitar, it gives girls something fun to tell their friends about you. Think how far ‘He knows how to play the guitar!’ goes. Never forget the importance of female validation: if her friend’s approve of you, SHE approves of you. Don’t underestimate this valuable principle.
3. It Makes An Easy Topic of Conversation. Whether you’re just meeting a girl or talking on a date, mentioning your guitar is an awesome topic of conversation. It’ll make even the fussiest and most demanding of babes listen to you: the moment you mention that you know how to play the guitar, they’re all ears! If you’re desperate for a topic of conversation, this one is can’t miss.
I should note something of sheer importance, however: mentioning that you play the guitar won’t work unless you talk about it with conviction. If you mention that you play the guitar but sound ashamed of it, or sound too hard like you’re trying to impress the girl, then…well, guess what? You won’t impress the girl! So be careful how you say it.
4. You don’t have to talk as much. This, for me, is one of the biggest benefits (the BIGGEST is next!). Think about the value of a guitar: when you play it, you become the center of attention. You don’t have to talk, people just listen to the music. It also makes an easy break in awkwards periods of silence; just whip out the guitar and the girl will be amazed!
5. A guitar makes you sexy! Yup, it’s a no-brainer here. Girls love guys who play the guitar because it’s really sexy–for every guy! Doesn’t matter how you look, how short or tall you are, how much money you have. When you whip out the guitar, you automatically become a male sex object.
Need proof? I have a friend in London who is BUTT UGLY. Seriously, he looks like a human pig–and smells like one, too! But the moment he whips out his guitar, girls LOVE him. I’m serious: he really gets lots of girls, all because he’s a guitar-playing fiend. The guy is GOOD, so this just goes to prove two things: one, that you can get girls without being handsome, and two, the better you play, the more girls you’ll get.
Don’t worry if you don’t know right now how to play a guitar. You don’t need to know how to play the guitar in order to get women, but as you can see…it really helps! And it makes your dating life easier in the process.
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Looking for help? Never played the guitar before? Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be hard. I found a really great page on the Net for learning how to play guitar from home, without dishing out hundreds of dollars for a tutor!
Jamorama.com
There’s even a free mini-course that will teach you the basics and more, so it’s worth checking out. Remember, there’s infinite value in playing a guitar. In the words of one Radiohead song: ‘Anyone can play guitar and they won’t be a nothin’ anymore.’
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December 21, 2007
It seemed like there was no chance this marriage could go wrong for my friend Sal. He was in love with this gal. Mary was THE one. They had only dated for 4 months, were only 20 years old, and neither had ever lived with a partner before, but still it felt meant to be. Sal had never dated much, in fact had some difficulty getting any girl to date him. But Mary had seen something in him, and that was all he needed. He wasn?t going to be lonely for the rest of his life, something he had always feared. This marriage was going to last forever. He knew it.
Well, that?s what Steve thought he knew. But it only took 9 months before Sal and Mary bitterly ended their train-wreck of a marriage. What had seemed like a perfect union when he proposed, became a perfect disaster in less than a year. A year earlier they had talked of love, and within a year they talked of hate and bitterness. Sal couldn?t quite figure out what went wrong, but to me it was immediately obvious: He went for the first girl who gave him a chance. Because he didn?t want to be lonely. And he didn?t think he was good enough to get anyone else.
Funny thing is, like so many other people who rushed into marriage to avoid loneliness, Sal got exactly that. And when he marries again, it?s probably only going to be worse.
Did you know that divorce rates are actually HIGHER for those in a second or third marriage than for those in their first marriage? Why is that? How can a man or woman who?s already been divorced possibly want to go through another?
The reason begins with choice. Or the lack thereof.
A big problem for us men is not having enough choices in women. Some of this we can?t control, such as if there are a disproportionate number of men to women in our area. Or if there just aren?t many young women in your town.
But usually, the problem is self-inflicted. We just go for the first women who seems crazy enough to hook up with us, and enter into a long-term relationship with her because we fear we won?t get anyone better. We doubt the power that?s within us. That was the case with Sal.
But that attitude isn?t fair. Not to you, and definitely NOT to the woman.
Think about it. If your woman went out with you just because she was afraid she wouldn?t be able to find a better man, would you call that love? Hell no. It?s more like desperation. And yet there are millions of men who have this desperate kind of thinking.
The good news is, It doesn?t have to be this way!
If you decide what it is you really need in a woman, then you won?t go into a relationship with a girl if she doesn?t conform to what you need. If you can?t stand a woman who?s a neat freak, don?t let a realtionship with someone who?s like that last. If you like privacy and she needs to be around you every second of the day, spare BOTH of yourselves lots of heartache.
The key is to know what you want, and to actually be PICKY about it. Even if you?re having trouble getting women, entering into a relationship with a woman just because she?s willing to date you, is a recipe for disaster. It?s also the reason there are so many divorces?divorces like my friend Sal?s.
Relationship expert Ken Kenny puts it best: ‘The more a man can come from a place of choice?two things happen, #1, the higher quality women he will attract, and #2, the more likely the relationships will last, because he won?t rush into something that isn?t ideal.’
What I love so much about that quote is its self-empowering nature. It tells us men that no matter how desperate we are, the power lies within us to get what we want. And by believing in ourselves, by being choosy, we actually will get what we want.
So guys, don?t just go for anyone. KNOW who you want, and even if the woman is beautiful, don?t let her get away with unacceptable behavior. If your woman drives you crazy, and you can?t fix the problem, then GET AWAY. Don?t let the relationship decay any further. Have the courage to go for someone who?s more like you, who can give you the REAL love you need. Because if you don?t want to be alone, it?s better to be choosy and find true love, then go with the first girl you get, and find true heartbreak. Just like Sal.
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